Moving To The Philippines
Treasure of Asia: The Filipina
The Filipina, also known as a bebot in Tagalog, or dai in Cebuano in other languages for younger Filipina or women of the Philippines. She is something you must experience to understand. And like any other human, 
she is complex and no two are just alike. Any time you start trying to describe a whole class of women in a country, you risk being labeled as stereo typing.
I’ve only begun to understand the Philippines and the Filipino, whether it be pinoy (male) or pinay (female) but I feel like I’ve come to understand Filipina better than I have pinoy. Probably because I’m far more interested in Filipina!
Much about the Filipina will be determined from being poor. Not all Filipina are poor but more are poor than not poor. If a single mother can find a job, it is unlikely she makes $200 a month. Most cannot find work at all. Unless you are working by the age of 25, it is unlikely you will work for someone else. Though many women find ways to start their own businesses.
Quiet Strength
There is a calm about the Philippines, well outside of the traffic but then, Filipino blow their horns in politeness rather than rudeness most of the time. Filipino blow their horn usually to let you know they are there butyes, sometimes to show disgust too.
Filipina are the epitome of calmness. Oh they can get upset, I’ve seen a 
couple of Filipina draw a lot of attention to themselves when they were in public. Jessie tells me that a display of temper is not an unusual thing, but my guess is that happens within family situations. I have yet to see any Filipino getting upset in a business.
When a dispute arises with a Filipina, they talk and ask questions and then walk away calmly. Jessie has several times delivered news to me that made me want to go through the roof! She would talk to the business person, in a very calm way. There would be smiles and I would think all is worked out. Then she would turn to me and tell me something that my western ears found next to impossible to believe.
Filipina are almost always polite but don’t take their silence as quiet agreement. They may choose not to argue but rather wait until the matter becomes important and something they must deal with.
Simple Filipina Beauty
Before coming here, I met a girl online and she started her webcam. I told her she was very pretty and she said no, “Its simple Filipina beauty.” I thought for a minute and I said something like, you know, you are right. But I don’t know if I could call it simple any more and in person their beauty takes on a sensuality that is just not likely to come across online, no matter what she does.
This so called simple Filipina beauty is enough to drive a mere man into a frenzy. When you are here and you see thousands of Filipina and watch thousands of them walk, expect to be driven slightly insane as this beauty is not simple at all. The hottie Filipina is a common sight.
The Filipina is enchanting, magical and will help make your life be all it could want it to be. If you treat her good, she will be good to you, loyal to you and do everything she can to please you. Respect her, and she will love you.
I hope this series of articles will be of use to you. Some of what I have to say on this subject has been learned the hard way. You can learn from my mistake and hopefully avoid some of them. Part II of this article will be made available soon. The series will cover the good and the not so good.
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Rusty, I just read your articles re: Filipinas….Filipino males are more attracted to women with whiter complexion…colonial mentality, I believe you can see it on TV, most of those who are actors and actresses, models for beauty products, etc. are the white skinned people. You seldom find these women in commercials that the Westerners find beautiful, Probably because there are a lot of native ladies and not a lot of mestizas and the pinoys are more interested with the mestizas, It’s the same thing for male filipinos to get attracted to blonde women
Colonial history in Asia has little to do with the native people valuing “white” skin. Japanese, Chinese, Thais and Vietnamese all value white skin(so do the many northern Indians). Since ancient times, white skin has been a symbol of wealth and power. Why? Because if you had tan skin that meant that you worked in the fields for your living. Exposure in the open fields darkened your skin. Women of leisure spent their time indoors. This also is one explanation of why “pancake makeup” was so common among Chinese and Japanese women of the higher classes. It is also important to notice that the range of skin tone among Asians is similar to that among Caucasians, with the exception of maybe some Germanic people. There is no such thing as a “yellow race”. Also, it is perfectly normal for Asians, or people of any race, to admire the beauty of Caucasians. Caucasians see beauty in Orientals and Africans, so why should not the reverse be so? Maybe one reason some white people interpret that Asians have a corrupted appreciation of “white beauty” is because these whites themselves have been corrupted by brainwashing by liberals who try and teach that Westerners brainwashed Orientals into rethinking their value of beauty?
Yeah, white skin. Very obvious on TV models.
Thin small nose too.
I’ve seen the commercials for skin whitening agents and find that comical.
Skin tone isn’t much of an issue for myself though.
How ironic that so many white women in the USA are obsessed with tanning beds to give themselves an unhealthy fake tan, while so many beautiful, naturally tanned women in the Phils are using creams to try and make themselves white. If that isn’t the definition of irony, I don’t know what is
It is also the best example of life is greener on the other side of the road that I have ever seen.
It was one of my first eye-opening moments here. I saw Palmolive soap advertising their soap contained whitening agents. It also made it totally clear to me that you can’t trust anything in an advertisement. They’d probably say it had darkening agents in it in the USA if they wouldn’t get sued for doing so.
I know. a lot of dermatologists are getting richer everyday because a lot of filipinas want to be whiter. white americans do not understand that, esp my husband who is wondering why I use whitening cream…ha..ha..ha.. A lot of my white american lady friends will tell me that they will kill for my skin color…there is the irony Joe.
My daughter is a tad lighter than me in summer time and a lot lighter than me winter time. Everytime we go to Florida or California, she will go outside to tan herself and I am hiding inside-away from the sun. A friend of ours whose dad is African American and mom is white wanted me to get her the whitening lotion so whe will be lighter.
Also, women in the Philippines are taking whitening pills so it is faster. You will read a lot of these in showbiz magazines. I would not go that far….it is too risky with so many cancers developing/ This is too much.
White Americans understand it better than you may think. This one does. I found it comical, not laughing at anyone but just the observation he m made. It was the same one I made.
Girls in the Philippines can be seen wearing jackets and covering themselves up. One friend borrowed Jessie’s sarong to cover her face when we were at Bantayan Island. I’ve seen girls wearing jackets in the hot part of the day. Those kinds of thing will help a little but not a lot as UV light bounce and saturates everything. Sunscreen is the only thing that will really help
I don’t avoid UV light as seriously as I use to but I’m not as sick as I use to be. There was a time I couldn’t possibly have lived here.
People seem to go from one extream to the other on this. I remember when I was at Subic in the mid 80′s This young lady who was stationed there would go to the berach every day. By the time she left two years later her skin looked like an old shoe. She was in her early 20′s.
We need some sun that is where we get our Vitamin D but the real secret to that is moderation.
Quite ironic really. Light skinned people want to be dark and dark skinned people want to be light.
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Not all people need sun. My rheumatoligist (lupus specialist) told me I should avoid it as if I had the “boy in a bubble” disease. I forget the name for that but it is a complicated name.
I only bring this point up because I once ran into one of these health food quacks promoting that sun was always good. Though he pretended to be an expert he couldn’t accept that it was bad for some people.
Well there are certain rare exceptions to whom even a small amount is very bad. Too much is also not good. I am speaking about the population who do not have these conditions. Here in Phoenix I see so many of these foolish sun worshipers with skin like old leather. That is taking it to the other extreme.
Some sun is necessary for the body to manufacture vitamin D. That is what tells me that not all sunlight is bad unless you have one of the diseases that makes it toxic. Without it then you need a suppliment to provide it.
Lupus is not rare. There are many auto-immune disease that the same is true for.
I got my diseases mixed up though. My doctor told me I should avoid the sun the same way as the people that have to wear space suits to go outside at all. That one is rare and I think it has a really hard name to spell or pronounce.
h,ha, Terry, I don’t have that problem where whites get jealous of me because of my skin colour. When I tell them I’m Filipina, they go “but Filipinas are dark, why are’nt you”?. Then I had to explain not all Filipinos have dark skins, a lot have because we are from the same Malay race same, which is the East Asian race. So, yeah, my daughter is very fair, complete with small freckles around the nose area. But she’s got the shape of my Grandma’s eyes, whose 1/4 Chinese. So she’s very pretty, so I tell her she’s got Chinese blood in her, along with British and Scots and she proudly told her friends. Her eyes are hazel.
Yeah, here the Filipino shops carry skin whitener lotions, cremes, I ask her if she actually sold those. She seemed to think think she’s sold a few. as not only Filipinos buy them, but Polynesians as well. When we were at my brother’s place in PI last year, my sis-in-law proudly reported that she was asked if here 3 companions this morning were “engkantos”.
yeah, I know about that ‘leather-look” Tom, look at Elizabeth Taylor now, skin like leather. Apparently she was a sun-worshipper, always getting photographed in the sun. Now she’s old, fat, and leathery!
even her millions of $$$ can’t get a surgeon to fix the damage. Only God can.
Talk about talk about living life to excess, well she did and paid for it in more ways than one. Is she still married?
Yes but how old is she. Some of these I’ve seen are in their 20′s and 30′s. That’s pretty young to mess up yourself like that.
don’t know how old she is now? 70′s? Look at Donatell Versace. Nice frock, but look at her face and skin and she’s not that old.
The fashionistas has got a lot to anwer for it. They started the tan trend years back. I probably wasn’t even born then, or if I was, would still be in diapers.
But they do start them young here. When my daughter was still a baby, the Nanny could not understand why I refuse expose my daughter to the hot sun for extended periods. We had a disagreement where I bought her a reversible pram so that when she takes my daughter for a walk, the sun won’t be in her face. I was furious I came home early one day, and found she never even bothered to reverse the pram to stop my daughter from getting the full blast of the sun for extended periods. She was not happy I was strict with that. Neeless to say, I had a new Nanny the following week.
SCID disease, Severe Combined Immunodefiency or now more commonly called Vetter’s disease, after the original boy in the bubble, David Vetter, who died in 1984 aged 12 after he came out of the bubble for a failed operation. And yes, he died from germs you and I just ignore and take for granted.
Christine, when I went to my allergist I found out that I am allergic to almost everything – environmentally…i am so happy it is not food. He told me that if he can only put me in a bubble, he would. I do not want to live like that, so now I get shots everyweek until
God knows when.
Hazel eyes? My husband got those eyes but my daughter got my brown eyes and she is always mistaken a Latina. I do not have the oriental eyes, because my great grandfather was from Spain.
Freckles…wow,,,your daugther is really pretty….pwera buyag….and she is a mutt like my daughter….LOL
Terry, welcome back! I thought you’d gone for that football thing again! I think Rusty’s just returned. I supposed he will tell us all about it. I’d been out of the scene. I was actually in hospital for 3 days for -
Malnutrition! yep, I wasn’t looking after myself. But my trip is all arranged. I hope no more health stuff for awhile. Might have a glass of ensure later.
Yeah, my daughter too kept asking why I kept saying “puwera buyag” when we were in PI last year. It was hard to find an explanation for something which we as kids just accepted as the norm. But she was very intrigued about the Maligno stories.
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