Some of the Expats Living In The Philippines…
Some of the guys living in the Philippines are less than ideal. Yes, I know that is an understatement and what your ideal is will be different from my own. I’ve been a bit hard on some of the Filipina. Some of them deserve it, others do not. I think it is only fair to look at us foreigners living in the Philippines.
I have been thinking for a while that I need to write an article about some of the men that come to the Philippines. I try really hard not to judge people. I will try to continue with that even in this post. At the same time, these things should help to bring understanding why Filipina might just lie to you. I’m sure some of the online girls that are out to make a dollar didn’t start out that way. They evolved into after being treated really bad.
Sometimes the guys are just like the ladies. They mean everything they say but they never go through with it. Sometimes they don’t go through with it fast enough to suit the girl too. The web is full of fantasy. Therapist offices are full of people that spend too much of their life in fantasy and much of that is on the web.
I like what Chris Rock said about men and their loyalty. He said we are as loyal as our options. Okay, a few men are not like that but most men are. They will do what they think they can get away with when it comes to women. We are easily tempted. It is in our genes.
Probably the worst I’ve seen are the guys that could care less if they get a Filipina pregnant and then disappear. This one is hard for me not to judge. Make a child and leave it to survive however it can and never look back. It happens, the guys have talked to me about it.
Some people just are so wrapped up in themselves they cannot see the harm they do to others. Often these people suffer from Anti Social Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
I can spot these folks pretty quickly. They also tend to get into trouble as they think the world revolves around them. They think if something is okay to them, then it is okay with the world. I don’t have a problem with someone living their life the way they think they should. I really don’t. I’ve also learned that you cannot caution people like this. They are unreachable. They also wreak a lot of pain in the lives of those around them.
Probably more expats fall into this group than does the normal population. Just a hunch but people like this might not have close family ties. Lacking such ties makes it easier to pull up stakes and travel around the world. No, I don’t assume this of the expats living in the Philippines when I meet them. I’m only speaking of general terms and wonder about it. There are many factors that could leave a person without close family ties. There are many factors that make living in the Philippines a good choice for some. Some though, can’t leave their family behind. Those that have had their family disown them would be more likely to be able to make the move to the Philippines.
Not long ago, I wrote a story about a Filipina faking a hospital receipt. I was talking with a restaurant owner about that and he said “Hey, the guys do that crap too.” He went on to say that “I had a guy the other day say here is P1000, please give me a receipt for P400 with last weeks date on it.” I can be slow and didn’t understand. The guy explained he probably need to prove to a girl where he was.
Then there are the sexpats living in the Philippines. You know, I could care less myself. If you want to come here for fun then by all means have it. That is a term that really has no definition. I would be surprised if it has never been applied to me. I’d probably enjoy it if my options allowed it. haha
The guys that come for underage girls though, that’s a different matter. I won’t even go into it from a moral standpoint. Morals shift from one place in the world to the next. I don’t feel it is my place to preach what is moral to someone else.
I will say this, young women in the Philippines tend to be quite naive overall. Most don’t think the way we do. Sexual things and the word malice are used almost as synonyms within Filipino culture. I was kind of shocked the first time a Filipina said to me “No malice intended.” it just didn’t compute with me. It is a good example of how different our thinking is.
I would say this even fits under one of the things I don’t like about living in the Philippines. It could be called hypocrisy. That happens all over the world and wherever it happens it makes me tense. Especially coming from someone close to me.
Filipina have a lot of family pressure on them and yhr outbreak of a scandal around their name brings them much fear. It brings shame to the family and that is something they are generally terrified of. People love to judge others here, it seems to be a national pastime.
This massively different way of thinking sets the stage for many problems. One of them is our way of thinking in the West about sex and the Filipino way of thinking about it.
Most Filipina under the age of 18 are quite innocent. That can lead to you not understanding their actions. They may be in awe of a foreigner. These things can set the average Filipina up to be easily manipulated. Even if that isn’t your intention.
For some, that is the intention, they come here to seek out underage girls. The problem I have with it is these girls are just not ready to be making these kind of choices. There hormones don’t wait until their brain is ready for the normal human feelings they have.
When things do go too far, they may be overwhelmed with guilt and fear of being discovered. That can cause you a lot of trouble. Trouble like a long time in jail. And it can lead to serious harm to the child’s self esteem. This is especially true in a culture where casual sex and malice are seen as equal.
And then when it his the press, it causes a lot of animosity toward the rest of the expats living in the Philippines. The kids are not ready, stay away from them!
Beware Of Expats Living In The Philippines
Many expats living in the Philippines love to complain about the Filipina that try to scam them. However, there are expats living in the Philippines that will be quite happy to scam you.
It wasn’t long after I arrived someone brought up the Legacy investment that many found themselves in. Not everyone promoting it thought they were ripping people off.
There was a bank in the Philippines that was offering 50% interest on deposits. It was the Legacy Group. Soon they went belly up. Some of the guys promoting it ran back to their homeland when it did. Their promoting it wasn’t legal in the first place and people wanted their money back. It was a pure pyramid scheme. They were paying returns out of new investors making “investments.”
I don’t know of any expats that admit to pretending to be an online Filipina. I do know of expats that talked of doing it if things got bad enough. If some are thinking it out loud, I really suspect some of are doing it.
I’d be more worried about some middle age guy in the USA, walking out of a marriage only to find out the girl he was talking to doesn’t exist. Then blowing his head off. A guy wrapped up in himself isn’t likely to think things through to that extent. I think it would stop most of us cold in our tracks from carrying out such a scam. It won’t stop everyone.
What I like to see in a person isn’t very complicated but one of them is pretty dang hard to come by. The first total requirement in a friendship for me is honesty. It is more important with a significant other or even a date than another guy.
The other thing I like to see is not intentionally harming others. If someone lies to me, I’ll probably just avoid them even if I like them. Not much point in talking to someone when you can’t believe anything they say. If you harm others, then I won’t even like you. Then I become judgmental.
When we are looking down on the scamming Filipina, I think it is important to remember dishonesty is not something inherit within them. Poverty will play a role in that. Recently I made that statement on Facebook and it was scoffed at by one guy. He came back with “Or greed.” I didn’t reply to his gross lack of knowledge of how most Filipinos live.
We need too look at ourselves. There are plenty of lying expats living in the Philippines too.
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wow rusty this is some thing that i always talked abaout but most never cared about,yes there r lots pinays that scam but what do it cost us? a few peso and it give them some money, but [heck] when we get a poor young gf preggy and shew hopes he wil marry her it destroyes her life I met some cnaadians and Usa like this who didnt care and i wanted to punch them out( and i am the one to do it by the way)it siockiens me to see peoples who coiunt on ur genrrosity to survive to have to sink to shuch a demeanning level to get from you whayt you should give any way,the philippina peoples are a gennerly proud race and we take advantage of them so badly ,, i my sewlf lv sx and do lv sx and lv the se]xy gfs but i stay in the leagal age and if i did preggy one i would honer her family even if i didnt marrry her,
Yeah, I forgot to mention the wife beating expats. I did write about that a couple of years ago though.
Domestic abuse is the biggest problem for many barangay chiefs. One told me that it is his biggest problem and that expats are often involved.
Sometimes Filipinos will put a stop to that in their own but final way.
The house I had there was actually only 2/3rds of a house I shared a wall with the other place. Every day this foreigner screamed at his filipina for hours i would hear her crying and occaisionally catch glimpses of her sad puffy eyed face. It was very disturbing and anger inducing. Finally he had to go back to UK for treatment because when he wasnt screaming he was coughing. Hope the [jerk] had lung cancer, Got so sick of his cockney accented screaming.
Pat could you tell us how u would honor her family without marrying her? Its easy to talk about the noble way we would behave if things took a bad turn in future. Give her a few thousand in guilt money before u disappear? How would that make her situation any better except on short term.
That said in my time there I never saw a filipina that was stuck with a half white baby. Yet the girls that have it going on, that is, are at the age of maximum beauty almost always end up pregnant from a pinoy. Four young women I knew there have had babies this year alone from pinoys and in all but one case the father of child deserted them when they found out about the pregnancy. In one case it was a barangay official who pressured for sex in order to give help to girl. In the one case the father of child stayed with the girl, I just got word from her that he beat her and kicked her out in the street. No, only one asked, and none got money from me and two I have seen on cam with new babies, so I believe their stories.
The point is that yes there are irresponsible foreigners. Going to the Philippines and being irresponsible for the fun of it is why many enjoy it there. However, the by far much greater problem is irresponsible pinoys which is leading to so many women having children out of wedlock and the incredible population explosion in the Philippines.
The women there will try to tell you that -”yuck, me no like young men here” but don’t ever believe it. The young men are as attractive to them as the young women are to us. They just know that with a young pinoy they will be stuck raising a baby without the fathers help. They believe that foreigners are more responsible. That said take responsibility for birth control yourself, don’t expect that they have, like women in first world countries do.
Let’s see, there over 70,000,000 Filipino so there are about 35,000,000 million pinoy. How many million foreigners are there? Far, Far fewer than one million so of course there is more irresponsibility among Filipino, there are far far more of them.
People do stupid things, young people are more likely to do stupid things. I see girls all the time doing very stupid things with pinoy.
I was chatting with a girl the other day that conversation pushed me to finally write this story. I fear she is headed for more bad choices. They guy wants her to have his baby but he doesn’t live here and doesn’t plan too.
I have talked to an American guy that told me his girl had a baby and he decided to find another girl.
I talked with a guy that fully intended to pretend to be a Filipina to make money.
I know quite a few that were in the Legacy thing.
Just like there are plenty of good Filipina there are plenty of decent expats. There are a lot of scumbag expats that sit around all day long, getting drunk, and trashing the Philippines all the while feeling like they are superior.
We are visitors, we are held to a higher standard just like visitors are int he USA.
So there are a lot of bad things happening in the Philippines. Does that justify the bad actions of foreigners? Of course it doesn’t so why bring it up?
I see pinay getting involved with married men, they know they are married. I see them getting involved with criminals. Just like the USA. The USA has laws that will force the guys to pay up. The Philippines actually does too but you’ll find few Filipina that will follow up. Though I know one that did. Same girl stalked me. That’s another long story, that I’ve written about on websites.
I met that girl in an online chat room and within 15 minutes she promised her undying love and requested a fiance visa.
A girl that I soon put in my ignore list. That I could move 8000 miles and end up in small town in the Philippines and have it be the same one she lives in, I think that is something that could only happen to me. 
There are actually two Filipina that I met on that program that live here. The other was constantly seeking money from guys. She’s a totally different person one on one. She’s got a boyfriend that she’s always with. Never once saw him in her video in that chat room though.
She’s just your average Filipina that found a way to make earn a little money online and I assure you that is exactly the way she sees it.
Back to this article. One reason the girls don’t go after these guys is they don’t have anything. There’s nothing they can give to the girls.
I really don’t sit in judgement over the scamming Filipina nor the scamming guy as long as it is consenting adults making their own free choices. It is 100% a choice. It may be a choice driven by need or a choice on desire. I only wished to point out that there is plenty of less than stellar behavior on both sides of this coin. That’s why we shouldn’t judge, non, not a single one of us in a position to rightfully do so.
I have a leader and I’m not a good follower but He told me that only the Father is good and He ask why do you try to remove the splinter from your brothers eye when we all have a log in our own.
So when I tell a Filipina, please don’t let this guy get you pregnant or when I advise people not to send money to a Filipina you don’t know, I’m not looking down on anyone. I simply give a word of caution. I am not foolish enough to believe many will listen. We all have to learn our lessons the hard way.
How many times have we seen a teen or young adult going down the same path we have. We can try to tell them but it won’t do any good most of the time.
You know, I use to be more open about my own short comings than I am now. I had to learn that lesson the hard way too.
I HAVE had a couple girls give me their DIA passwords and I went on pretending to be them for the fun of it. Wow are there alot of foreigners chatting filipinas. The girls were drop dead gorgeous and had pics reflecting that and the guys comments to them came in steady. Many Maybe most actually seemed respectful.
There were however scumbags who say right off “i want to go there and have a baby with you”. They know it is most province girls dream to have a family with a respnsible man that can support her well. I had a couple say they wanted to send me money. Tempting but it must not be that easy or the girls wouldn’t have given me the passwords.
well said rusty there are good and bad in all and the filipinos are very trusting.hope we can meet one day when i come back there to visit our family
I hope so. Meeting me is kind of hard because no matter what I try, I always seem to end back up on the vampire schedule. I stayed up for 24 hours the other day, hoping to force my internal clock to reset. Didn’t work. It is 6:23am and I’ve not been to sleep yet. Starting to get sleepy. lol
The entire time I was sleeping at night, I felt awful but that wasn’t long before I slept all day and up all night again.
thats ok iam same with my job at the moment iam caretaker at a mine site and dont do any physical work i go to sleep only for 2 hours then up again
we are trying to visit there for the sinulog festival in jan
You need to make your hotel reservations for that now.
I already have mine. Sure hope I can stay awake.
My inability to keep a schedule played a major role in my disability. For years I struggled with it. I just can’t do it. I’d love to change that but it just doesn’t seem to be possible.
yeah have booked the hotel got it half price as they had specials on we staying at the crown regency on osmena boulevard
it dont matter if u cant keep a schedule makes life intresting
I wont be far from there but my price will be about 1/10th of yours.
I’m spending P6500 or so for the four days.
I think from there though, you can watch the parade from the room, I have to walk out to the street.
Hi Rusty , the price of your room got my attention. I plan on checking out the islands for possible retirement. Will be down fro a month or so and need a starting place. Something cheap for the first week or so , while I get my bearings would be great. Any help will be gratefully appreciated.
Pacific Pension is cheap and just fine for me. Hot water, air con works but you might find it a little warm till you get use to it. P800 a night or so. In Cebu City. Tristan’s on Bantayan also has rooms there but eating in the restaurant will cost you.
I understand your problem rusty – when job ended and without a compelling reason to get up in morning i tend toward night owlishness – one solution fly back to usa with a 12 hour time differance the jet lag will probably translate into u being and early morning well slept out riser. When I came back here the time differance jet lag played out as sleepy by 10pm and wide awake and rested by 6:30 am.
Naw, I’m not working because I had the same problem when I was working. I remember trying to stay up all night once, by noon my legs were burning? I went home.
They even gave me flex schedule, I could come in up to two hours late and work two hours later. That helped a lot but it was an issue.
Then I found some deep seated racism going on and that was the final straw. I just walked out, I had had enough.
Sinulog is amazing and truly the big highlight of the year in Cebu – enjoyed it so much even though last year there was some rain- However getting a hotel room near sight is the only way to go – it took me and gf 5 hours of waiting in the rain to get a taxi home – and the jeepneys werent much better as attested by the hundreds of people waiting with us for a way away from festival. Came very close to sleeping on the street that night. They dont plan for events like that, the way they would elsewhere, you are on your own figuring out how to get to it and back.
I totally agree with what you wrote Rusty. I am always having to prove myself to my fiance, because her friends keep telling her horror storys.
I really do my best to always keep my word to her, and never make a promise I can’t keep. Even today I sent her enough for her first visit the a dentist, and sure I still ask for receipts. She asks why, and I truthfully tell her I want to see that she is taking care of herself and what was done. the guys that you described that treat the girls with no respect will get there karmic backlash soon enough.
Keep up the good work.
Andrew in Wisconsin
It might get them the back of a Filipino hand too, or worse.
A Filipina I know well tells me that when she was a child, there was a woman that was getting beat a lot. Finally, she saw a group of men with sticks looking for him. She never saw that man again.
There was a guy that was known to beat his wife on Bantayan. He ended up dead in a jail cell. At first the press said he was banging his head into the wall. It appears, though that he had done that kind of thing before. The final report was he had a heart attack. I think he was in his mid 30s. I don’t know who did it but I think I know what caused his heart attack.
This article has produced some amazing responses.
I met a girl on the net.She had 2 girls,her husband deserted her.She asked for money for a camera for the computer she had at home ,so I could see her as we talked and meet her daughters.She seemed to be pretty honest. She asked for money for a few things and I sent it.She had a government job,But it didn’t pay much. Finally she asked for plane fare to Cebu so we could meet. She was a nice woman,her children were very obiedient and taken care of.I moved to Cebu.We went to Iligan and I met her parents. I rented a place in new town In cebu. we lived there as a family. I was going to take her to the u.s. and marry her.But My income was cut down to 1/4 th of what it had been. I felt she would not have had a good life in the u.s.because of my reduced income. She had a hard time understanding it. It was hard for me to let her go.She found another american in time and married him. She now is married and her girls are now living in the u.s.She seems to be happy as we kept in touch for a while. The girls would e-mail also. I didn’t use my e-mail address and lost it. I don’t remember their addresses either. It has been 6 years now. In time I went back to the P.I. and found another single woman and we were married.We are happy.My wife never asked me for anything while we e-mailed each other.After we decided to marry She quit her job and I stayed in the P.I.for 14 months while she got her paperwork approved to come to the u.s.a. as my wife. My point is some girls have nothing and need help if you are going to meet them in places other than their home towns. They don’t have the money to fly to other Cities. The first woman did not want me to go to Iligan on the island of Mindano because she was thinking of my safety.I also met a few other filapinas and even though there was no romantic side to our frendship they never asked for money and even invited me to visit them if I came to the P.I. just to talk and meet in person. I must say that all the women involved were 39 years old or older.
Ken, I do think you greatly reduce your risk with and older pinay. You’re right, most don’t have the money to travel.
Generally when they say they don’t want you to go there that is a red flag. Red flags don’t always mean that it will go badly. It is just an indication that something may not be right. I’d go or not send the money. It worked for you though.
Wow, There are a number of things here to comment on.
1; Anyone (male) who takes advantage in any way of young women, should be castrated and then shot!!
2; For any expat to scheme and try to fleece others is just plain low. Like a pimp living off his women.
3; responsibility for your actions and the results of those actions. If you are going to have sex with someone make sure of the birth control arrangements in advance, and in a mostly catholic society, that would mean for the man to use protection . Which is not always reliable.
If I was single and having a relationship with a woman . I would make sure that she knows I have had a Vasectomy. I am shooting blanks, but I do like spending time at the range!
Secondly while the younger women are very enticing, there is a lot to be said for those who have raised there families. I know I raised mine, and do not really want to raise any more children.
3; It sounds like a little bit of vigilante justice would go a long way.
4; Seeing that I am not there, but the idea of a bunch of expats who are possibly alchoholics,sitting around drinking and doing nothing but complaining is not the way I want to spend my time. By nature I am friendly , I will go out with people for a beer or two and three is my absolute limit when out in public. I like to out get barbeque and have a beer , or pizza and beer is also a good combo.
Bun believe me I like my private time in my man cave listening to music, and reading or working on a model or doing my thing on the computer.
5; I have been out of work for just over two years now. And I find my self easily becoming a nigh person. When I worked shift work I always asked for two months of midnights back to back. I would keep the same hours on my days off as when I was working. Didn’t have much of a social life the(I was single) But I was enjoying my job and my time off.
Well that ‘s is it for now. Any thoughts and or comments are welcome!
Be Well
Marc
Yeah, a bunch of drunken complaining guys is not my idea of fun either. I’d need a xanax after an hour.
Lots of great comments here and one thing I really enjoy is reading others personal experiences. If u drink most of the day and complain Idk how u can expect to live a happy life, so why would anyone choose to do that? Expats are looked up to by many over there for reasons such as higher edition with means smarter, more money witch mean a better life style and also light skin witch is seen as more attractive. So it is quite easy to feel better about yourself and take advantage of people with out giving it much thought, that can only last so long and has it’s consequences.
If u look at the Filipino people’s mentality in whole they are a very happy bunch and I think a lot of it stems from politeness and willing to help others out. If u try to emulate this behavior u will go far and achieve a great level of happiness with others trying to help u.
There are good comments here. I hope the tone stays positive and helpful like yours are.
It really is possible to stay positive and helpful even when not agreeing. Such as me disagreeing that we are smarter. Thought I think you were just searching for a word and didn’t find the correct one.
Education bring knowledge, not smarts. Though, going to the right school can also enhance one’s ability to think.I had one professor in college that excelled at pushing me to beyond what I had been pushed before in the thinking level. He happened to be a finance professor. I owe him so much. Thank you Dr Neely! Hmm, wonder if I spelled his name right. He’s still teaching.
Education bring knowledge and more experience in things. Filipino are very smart overall. They often excel in making something quite nice from nothing.
And one can certainly find new wealth in non material things if they take a lesson from Filipino.
For many of those drinking beer all day it has long ceased to be a choice. Many of us get ourselves addicted to various substances. It really isn’t a flaw in character. Or maybe it is but we all have flaws that lead us in the wrong way in one way or another. I was just too afraid to drink very often. I would be an alcoholic too if I had. Instead, I’m a slave to cigarettes. I’m not going to look down upon the all day every day drinkers either. Not even the occasional drunk. I miss getting my drunk on a few times a year. LOL The price is too high for me now. Once I turned 35 (a significant time ago) I found getting a drunk on was often at a higher price than I was willing to pay. Still, I have paid it a few times. lol I think the combination of all the meds I take and diabetes has ruined that for me. Even one drink often leaves me feeling horrible the next day.
I had a very bad day yesterday but I think I earned that from taking too much Benedryl to stop this eternal itching.It is 5am and I’m looking forward to going to see a doctor today.
Hey, its payday, better go check the bank and see if I have money to transfer.
hello im from US and living in manila for almost 10 years..but recently a former gf is harrazing me for child support without ever stablish paternity.. She did it a several expat from her mouth to my ears. Its a big problem.
Not sure I follow you. She’s asked several guys to pay the child support?
if it possibly yours, I’d say find out. You establish paternity. If I’m following you and she’s done this with several guys, i’d not give her a dime until that is proven.
40 years ago my father had to pay only $150 a month for me. That was a lot back in those days. At least in south. A couple of hundred dollars a month goes a long way in the Philippines for most poor Filipinos. I’d love the chance to be close to my child. I’d find out. Of course, I don’t know what your financial situation is though. If it is yours I say do the right thing. Be glad you’re not in the USA where child support makes the man broke and the X well off.
Hello Rusty how are you. I was just sitting here reading some of your posts, good stuff, I enjoy reading this. Marianne and I are in Lapu-Lapu City now while she is in Southwestern University in Cebu City. Wanted to ask you why are so many of the expats I see walking in SM Cebu mall so unfriendly, I always go out of my way to say hi and most of them will just look the other way and totally ignore me, just doesn’t figure. I am a kind harted person I like to make friends and will even go out of my way to go talk to people but find many here just unwilling to even say Hi. Any input on why that is. I am still doing WordPress websites here,and now thinking of doing tours also. I heard you did them also how was that working out?
Charles
Tours? I don’t do that. It is one of the businesses only Filipino are allowed to operate. Many expats do it but its not legal.
I’d love to do it. I’m sure there is a way to work it out and keep it legal too.
I don’t know about unfriendly expats. I don’t run into that but I also tend to not even see them. Oh I’ve met a few that seem unfriendly. If I speak though they’ve always spoken back. I usually don’t. I’m more friendly toward Filipino though, I go out of my way to be friendly to the locals.
Honestly blogging about the Philippines is a lot of work from a business standpoint there are better ways to make money online. I hate doing those kinds of sites though. Still, I like money. Sometimes it is work. Sometimes it can be a nice combination of the two like this site.
I talked to Ron Perry not long ago and he mentioned you were back in Lapu Lapu and I saw someplace else that your wife was attending Pharmacy school I think. Something you wrote, probably on Facebook.
If I live long enough, I’ll probably return to Cebu City. My long term goal is to get a condo there but I’m no where near close to doing that yet.
wow rusty….finally i got the chance to read this article…it was so wonderful following every details…remember i told you i had a forieghn bf before??i was 16 when i left my hometown from the province of leyte and came here to cebu with the help of my uncle who wanted to send to college..but i stop becoz he decided to get married…that is how i got my life here alone…like a rat looking for a place to stay…i meet that guy in a mall here in cebu…with a friend…we have been friends and he noticed how scared i am everytime we are together…i never had a guy ever in my life at that time…very innocent…but when i got pregnant,3 months delayed at that time i told him…but on the next day he texted me not to come to the hotel coz he was busy …the next thing i know i was calling the hotel and he has checked out already…i could not contact his number…and i don’t know how to use internet at that time…
I was so young then…so scared what people would say…if they found out that a foreign guy left me being pregnant…i only had my bestfriend here at that time…i don’t have a family here…
So…they decide for me the house where i was renting a room …the owner was an old lady who knows “HILOT”..the next day i got blood all over my legs..and i know the baby was gone…SO scared…i know it could have killed me…but i am more scared for that child to grow up with a miserable life.
Yes u are right poverty plays a role on why filipina lie…
a year after that i decided to live with a filipino bf just to save myself and survive…i don’t want myself to end up on the streets selling myself like a piece of meat.. months after that foreign guy came back…he called me on my mobile phone…It was a a good time for revenge…i sleep with him…and months after that i got pregnant…i am not sure if it was from him or from my filipino bf…
I almost die becoz of him so i decided to ask him support for my pregnancy and for the hospital…He supported me with no doubt…but after i give birth he was gone again….and now i dont know where HE is…
That is the reason now why i decided to live with my filipino bf for support…living with a man u know who doesn’t love u is like living in a hell…I was living in there house until now…but i know he had a gf …i know not a lot of people could understand me…but life was really hard and mostly unfair…
those who dreamed to be loved often failed..that experience has changed my LIFE forever…….
Hello SS, thanks for your story. I would like to think it would do some good for guys to see the kind of devastation they leave behind when they behave this way.
Guy comes here, grabs an underage girl and then abandons her. The kids and 16 is a kid may feel all grown up but they are not yet ready to fuly understand the choices they are making.
I know so many girls that in similar situations. It matters not if it is pinoy or foreigner. It is usually pinoy.
I think this story speaks to some of the issues being considered by the Philippines now.
Those opposed to change really do have valid points, however this is earth and we are dealing with humans. Perhaps their views reflect the way things should be. Humans are not angels and we make bad choices. We also have human feelings that can help to cloud judgment. So while those points are valid they are also unrealistic on earth.
Sheen, stop repeating the mistakes. I know, easier said than done. Hold on, for most of us there are more bad times in our teens and 20′s. Things may never be heavenly for you. They haven’t been for me, even now, though I must say that I’m closer than I ever have been. We can though become content. I hope you find a way to get there. I think you will. There will be good times and there will bad times. That is just life. I use to think I should be able to be happy, in a state of bliss all the time. Chasing that, leads to major disappointment. Some might even say that’s not a very optimistic outlook you have there Rusty. Maybe, but I’m almost always content and when not, I’m usually happy.
Thank you for that…lesson already learned.During those younger years…making a real decision was a hard thing to do..I am required to be responsible of my own choices..
It took me some quiet time to convinced myself to stop believing in fairy tales.life maybe hard by now..but I must learned to understand things will happen and come in a right time,somethings are not meant o happen by now
and if I push to much i might repeat the mistake again,which will only ruin my life..
Someone has taught me how to be content
of where i am now(u know who is that)..
Sometimes things may not go the way I want it to be,,but we can always be sure that God knows every detail of my situation and is prepared to guide me through it..
For now I can’t wait to grow up into a more mature,responsible woman and a loving wife to be…